The most common question I’m asked isn’t about communications, it’s about energy. Specifically, how do I find the energy to do what I do? To be a mum to three little boys, run my own business, be a community volunteer, exercise regularly, bake, write fiction, and all the other bits and pieces in between.
The answer is simple: I love what I do. I’m not superwoman and it’s certainly not always easy, but I genuinely love my work, fitness, community, family, and writing, so I make it all fit.
‘Busy’ is the word most people would use and until recently it’s the word I used too, but it didn’t really gel for me. The negative connotations didn’t sit right. A conversation with friend and wellness coach Bonnie Grylls-Graham from CH Wellness gave me a better word – thriving. My business and life are thriving. Yes, there’s a lot going on, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. When you love what you do, the effort is worth it. It might be hard work, but it’s not a chore.
Exercise is my secret weapon. It boosts my energy when I’m feeling flat, improves my mood, relieves stress, and gets the happy hormones flowing. It’s not a matter of ‘do I have the energy to exercise?’ but rather ‘how much energy will I miss out on if I don’t?’. I can’t afford not to exercise. It allows me to keep up the pace that I do. I’ve never regretted a workout after the fact and the feeling it gives me is enough to get me moving on these cold winter days. It’s as much about my mental health as my physical health.
The other thing is TV; I don’t watch it. It’s not that I don’t enjoy television, it’s just that there are other things I prefer to do with my time and as a result, I fit lots in. I work at night when the kids are in bed and I write fiction as my form of escapism.
I don’t always get it right. Sometimes I push myself too hard and take on too much . I know I need to give greater priority to sleep and relaxation. I often sacrifice sleep to work or write and as a result I get tired and stressed. It’s not good for my health, or for my family. It’s something I need to work on; I’m not perfect.
But what I am is a focussed, committed and determined woman, doing my best to get the most out of life. Because life is not a practice run, this is it and I owe it to myself to make it amazing.
On that note, I’m going to bed.